How to Give Constructive Criticism | Lent Prep | Easter Prep

 The goal of constructive criticism is to point out what’s wrong and set a direction for improvement which helps build a healthy relationship. 

Here is a guide on how to deliver constructive feedback that doesn’t start a fight.

Before you speak, think about why you are trying to help the person with your advice.  Is your constructive criticism:

• Goal-oriented which is focused on a better outcome.

• Objective and based on facts and behaviors.

• Timely. Advice that is delivered close to the event, but not in the heat of a high-stress moment.

Using a structured approach, provide feedback that stays away from feeling like a random list of complaints.

Technique	How it Works	Example
The "I" Statement	Will give your perspective rather than blaming them and may keep the person from feeling attacked.	"I noticed some typos in the report," vs. "You always make typo mistakes."
Actionable Specificity	Tells them exactly what healthy change might be able to improve the situation.	"The presentation is text heavy. Try using more visuals in the slides to explain the data."
The "Sandwich" (Optional)	Positive feedback → Critique → Positive outlook.	Useful for sensitive topics or new relationships.  “ I really like how you focused on our budget. I would like more money in the food budget for healthy food options. I know you are interested in keeping our medical bills down.”

• DO talk in private. Correcting someone in front of a group is a quick way to trigger defensiveness or cause embarrassment.

• Avoid using "always" or "never." This may escalate a conversation into an argument.

• Ask for their perspective. Say, "How do you feel that project went?"

• DON'T wait too long. If it is defined as a negative habit after thirty days, then it is time to deal with the issue using constructive advice. 

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Criticism is only constructive if there is an option for improvement. End the conversation by:

1. Defining our next steps: Agree on what healthy behaviour works better for the relationship. 

2. Offer support: Ask, "Would you like help auditing our budget?"

3. Expressing confidence: Remind them why you're giving the feedback. ”I believe we can balance our budget and plan for our future while enjoying homecooked meals.”